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Feedback – Giving And Receiving

By Josette Veltri All too often, feedback given Be objective – stay with the facts.
by both the giver and receiver Receiving feedback
Giving and receiving is tainted with blind spots both Be open-minded. There is always something to learn and
feedback effectively is a causing many to ignore the grow from feedback.
crucial and required skill need to depersonalize, look Listen without personalizing or responding with the voice
in both our personal and objectively and normalize the in your head. This practice avoids taking things personally,
professional lives. Without conversations. Whether we are becoming defensive and missing the purpose for the feedback.
carefully choosing our words, the feedback giver or receiver, Allow time for reflection and be open to dialogue; ask for
family, friends, neighbors, to avoid emotional uprising and possible fallouts, it is clarity. Remember, feedback is a two-way street.
and business colleagues can imperative that our words be thoughtful, constructive and There is so much more I can share about giving and
easily be offended or believe compassionate. receiving feedback, but I will end with the following
the information we shared is Giving feedback statement to remember:
not useful or think “here they go again, yada yada.” Before feedback is given, decide on what behaviors need An especially important aspect of giving and receiving
To make feedback relevant and important to both the giver to shift or change. Then, take a trip to the playing fields of feedback is to foster trust. Trust that the giver has the
and receiver, it is necessary to provide clear and accurate yesterday and today illustrating the benefits this shift will receiver’s best interest in mind and vice versa.
examples illustrating what ineffective behaviors need to have on tomorrow.
change. For example, ineffective/negative behavior is rude Be an assertive communicator – assertive communication Josette Veltri, a Boca Pointe resident, is a certified
communication between spouses or, hostility and disrespect uses direct, clear, and respectful language eliminating any educator and coach on loss and transition. Her purpose, to
between siblings and neighbors. misunderstandings. assist clients heal and move forward so they can go from I
Can’t to I Can, One Step at a Time. She can be reached at
josette@nextstepnewstart. com (https://www.linkedin.com/
in/josettejveltri/). 
Our 38
th
Annual The Sound
ual
Ann
Of Silence
Summer Sale By Judith Levy
Summer Sale

What I remember most
about my first marriage
ceremony was the fact that
I didn’t get to say one word.
Only the groom spoke. He
said the prayers and stomped
on the glass and I just stood
there, speechless, a mute
agreeing to what I didn’t
know as everything was said in Hebrew or Aramaic.
Then came the sound of Mazel-Tov! Congratulations,
everyone was so happy and then suddenly I found I was no
longer single, I was married.
During the marriage I was again relegated to the sound of
silence. My husband made all the decisions, and I was told
what I could and couldn’t do. I tried to assert my rights, but to
no avail, his words were law. He wouldn’t allow me to drive
or write a check, he even food shopped fearing I would spend
too much money in the supermarket. Every cent I earned I
had to turn over to him and I did.
When I finally spoke up the sound of my voice was very
clear. “I want a divorce!” So, I went to Mexico and there
I wasn’t allowed to speak either. Just sign your name they
said, and when I looked puzzled, they announced curtly, “Go
home, you’re divorced.” I ran out of the place.

of my voice on and on. My poor second husband had to

When years later I remarried, you could hear the sound

listen to my demands for equality and fairness, which were
unnecessary because this husband was generous and kind
Lenses on 1 Pair
st

and wanted the best for me. I didn’t have to fight for my
wanted me to be happy. I was happy but forever watchful lest

rights, they were at my fingertips because my new husband
I repeat my previous mistake. We were contentedly married
Lenses on 2 Pair
nd
for fifty-three years. The only time my husband put his foot

down was years ago when he stepped on the glass. In my
*Except Cartier & Maui Jim home the sound you could hear loud and clear was the sound
of happiness.
Rx or Non-Rx Lenses on 3 or More Judith Levy is the New York Times best-selling author of
rd
Expires 08/21/24 Expires 08/21/24 GRANDMOTHER REMEMBERS, which has sold over four
million copies and the mega best-seller GRANDFATHER
KNOWN FOR OUR SELECTION • REMEMBERED FOR OUR SERVICE REMEMBERS, published by HarperCollins. Both books
are available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. 

Vehicle Information
Never
Boring
If you have purchased
a new vehicle within
the past 6 months,
please make sure
the Boca Pointe Community Association management
office has a copy of your current vehicle registration
on file. Your gate transponder is linked to your vehicle
so it is important that we have accurate information in
our system. Please fax it to (561) 395-5936 or email
it to admin@bocapointe.com.
THE SHOPS AT BOCA CENTER ON MILITARY TRAIL | 561-394-5551 | GROVEOPTICIANS.COM Thank you for your cooperation!
BPCA Management team 