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The Singles Scene Column
What Type Of Single Are You?
By: Kelly Leary M.S.,
©
Founder of Revolution
Dating
Knowledge is power and
YOU hold the key to your
future relationship. Only
YOU have the power to
navigate the change needed
on your personal road from
SINGLE to TAKEN. If you
are in “relationship limbo” or
“in between relationships”
do identify what type of single you represent by choosing from
the below categories. Do this today and take deliberate action
toward change. Let’s figure this out, together.
Dating
© The Curmudgeon Single: This type may be single, has felt love in the most beautiful sense of the word. They
divorced or widowed. Key traits: cranky, negative, grouchy have also felt heartache but they continue to love more...
and in some ways even unlovable. There may be a sense of and they almost always do! WHY? Because they believe in
desire for another completely “out of their league” which love AND they know they are lovable. This person knows the
exaggerates their bad attitude as they are never satisfied. benefits of love will ALWAYS outweigh the risks. Single,
Likelihood of resuming a (healthy) relationship is slim to divorced, or widowed of ALL AGES this person has a high
none. Open to change: minimal. This male or female may success rate in my club and the odds are in their favor. This
have been cheated on or took a large hit in life and never person can be alone but their ultimate desire is to find their
recovered. This person can be helped with some therapy forever/grand finale love.
or a complete change of attitude. However, a “revolution” The Lucy Goosey: Typically female. Often found in
becomes less likely the longer this person stays single. If this bars or online dating sites and is rather desperate to find a
is you, get moving while you’ve still got it. As it stands, with partner. Most divorced or never married and age 25 to 60.
no therapy or mindset change this person is undateworthy. This single jumps from date to date rapidly. They confuse
Many people online fall into this category. They are just the physical aspects of intimacy with love and commitment
no fun to be around, right? You can make much better use and are often left with feelings of rejection, insecurity,
of your time. jealousy...because she is rarely...if ever...the “chosen one.”
The HopeFUL Romantic: Luckily “most” of the people She will date almost “anyone” who pays attention to her.
I meet are this type of person (yeah). This male or female This person is, well, desperate. I typically don’t meet this
type of person in my office and I would rather not work with
this type--to be honest. It is too unattractive--as a character
trait--and they usually scare people off after one date. They
are tough to be with on any level, frankly. I’m sure you know
the type. In their book of life it is never their fault. Blame
games abound.
The Even Steven: He is a total mess. Commonly
divorced or never married. Age 25 to 60. He is the male
counterpart of Lucy Goosey. He wants love and intimacy
but can’t seem to shake his past failures. This man blames
women for all his failings and suffers from great insecurity
in and out of the bedroom. He may also over-compensate
for his weakness by seeking multiple notches in his head
board...to get “EVEN” with the opposite sex...trying to
desperately make himself “whole” again. He is rarely
successful and noncommittal when all is said and done.
Most men like this prey in bars, online dating sites or the
social media area. Luckily again, I don’t meet many of
these social predators in my office. They are too happy with
the dark side of keyboard dating, which is more ominous.
Even Steven’s like to operate under the radar of responsible
authentic dating.
The Past Life Blessed: Widow or widower of any age,
although typically age 55 to 80 plus. This male or female
had a special marriage. They have grieved appropriately and
are now ready to find new companionship (not marriage per
se). This group does very well in my club as long as they
avoid comparing their matches to their late husband or wife.
I have seen many widows and widowers find love again in
my club--and it is SO REWARDING. My heart goes out
to those who have found the key to happy marriage...and I
know...as with the “HOPEFUL ROMANTICS” that there
can be a chapter after a loss of a spouse. This generation
of seniors today (from 60s to the 80s), given the right
circumstances and opportunity, can really have a ball. I see
it all the time! I am not even afraid to age anymore! Thank
you to all my seniors for being so cool and open minded to
love/kinship after loss of a spouse. It can happen.
May all of your April Goals come true! Let’s give
you exciting moments to look forward to this coming
summer. Take a moment to do something solely for YOU.
Love, Kelly
#LoveFest2022 #AimTrueIn2022 #LoveOffline
#WhyBeSingle #TellYourFriends #SheConnects
Kelly Leary’s career spans a successful three decades
in the love business. In her 31 years of experience, she
has watched the dating scene morph drastically with
the onset of online dating and she has witnessed a huge
boom in her longstanding private practice--especially
post pandemic. With her Master’s Degree in Clinical
Psychology, with a Forensic Concentration, she has
revolutionized the industry. She has been profiled by
PalmBeacher Magazine, Stuart News, Boca Magazine,
The Palm Beach Post and other publications. Kelly was
also named “Florida Woman” in recent years. Her clients
are prescreened first, including background checks.
Professional client photos are taken in house. Revolution
Dating is not online dating or blind dating. In addition
to providing matchmaking services that make singles
“UN-single” through their exclusive connections, Kelly
is also involved in the charity community sponsoring
organizations like The Leukemia Lymphoma Society,
Furry Friends, and Chasin’ A Dream Foundation. To
get started, simply call (561) 630-XOXO (9696) or (772)
932-HERE (4373) or register on her website at www.
revolutiondating.com.
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