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a down payment has seen the percentage of first-time buyers new home construction. Despite the decline in job openings, Orlando has gone further, passing a rental restriction
fall to 29 percent. builders have been unable to fill skilled worker positions prohibiting increases in multi-unit buildings to no greater
While some analysts believe that we are in a full-blown resulting in slower construction. than the annual increase in the Consumer Price Index. This
real estate recession, the price for existing homes for sale has New home construction fell nearly 10 percent month over ordinance will be on the ballot for approval by city residents
not declined substantially, due, in part, to the continued low month, and nearly eight percent from last year. A survey of in November. However, Section 125.0103 Florida Statutes
inventory of available properties. Instead, sellers merely have homebuilders found that confidence fell for the eighth straight prohibits local governments from imposing price controls
to wait longer to sell their property and are unlikely to get month in August 2022. It is anticipated that new home starts (including rent controls) unless the municipality proves
offers above list price, a common practice at the beginning will decline in 2022 for the first time since 2011. that “such controls are necessary and proper to eliminate an
of 2022. It is predicted that fewer than five million homes Rising rents have also caused major trauma in the existing housing emergency which is so grave as to constitute
will be sold in 2022, a pace that is nearly one-half million residential rental market. Municipalities across the State of a serious menace to the general public.”
lower than the average annual sales in the last decade. Florida are considering ordinances that would restrict rental Finally, in a disturbing trend, it appears that some African
New construction has been greatly affected by the increases or change how lease rates can be increased. West Americans who were seeking to refinance their properties
combination of higher cost for building materials, supply Palm Beach and the Village of Royal Palm Beach both passed received appraisals far below market value. These owners
chain issues for certain construction items, and lower demand an ordinance that requires landlords to provide at least 60 sought reappraisals with fake white owners, and the values
due to higher costs and higher interest rates. Job openings in days’ notice in advance of the lease termination date if the suddenly increased by thousands of dollars. This is certainly
the construction field fell 71,000 between May and June 2022, renewal rate will exceed five percent of the previous year’s a disturbing issue that will need to be watched.
signaling a lower demand for workers due to a decrease in rental rate.
Mental Health Memo: Are You Having a

“Part-Attack” and Don’t Even Know It?

By Elyce Kiperman-Gordon, MS, Our work together brought up a traumatic memory for nervousness and embarrassment from his failure on stage in
LCMHC, NCC, owner of The Feeling James of a time back in high school when he ran for class high school. Motivated by fear, he would begin criticizing
Expert , an evidence-based and president and failed after getting nervous on stage and himself as an act of protection to prevent others from
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holistic psychotherapy practice, freezing during his speech. His classmates bullied him, and criticizing and shaming him.
located in Boca Raton. She is a his deep sense of embarrassment and shame caused parts of We all have an inner critic—which can help us to be
Board Certified, licensed Clinical him to diminish his self-confidence. better—but James’s critic, that wounded part, had gone to
Mental Health Counselor, offering I explained to him how those parts were affecting the extremes to “protect” him from failing and being humiliated
a range of therapeutic approaches way he behaved and interacted with his supervisor, and how once again, thus inhibiting his success. Oftentimes, when we
to treat anxiety, depression, trauma they were interfering with his confidence by reacting to his face a traumatic event in childhood we don’t have the support
and relationship issues. Elyce is an Internal Family Systems old trauma that was never healed. He was able to identify we need to process the intense feelings, so they get buried
Specialist (IFS) and a Certified International Integral Sound where this belief that he was not good enough came from, deep down and hidden away, often to come back when we
Healing Therapist. She can be reached at (844) CAN-HEAL and why his parts reacted by being self-critical and always least expect them.
or Elyce@TheFeelingExpert.com. questioning his skills and value. He also could see how the The Results: Through the IFS approach, I was able to guide
The Patient: James, a 40-something male who came to parts connected with one another in their roles and were James to uncover and heal the parts that felt unappreciated,
me wanting to build his self-confidence around issues he acting to protect him. The parts were acting in extreme ways overlooked, self-critical, questioning himself, and believed
was having at work. James had been working for the same to keep James from ever having to face humiliation again, he wasn’t good enough. We were able to focus on how the
employer for more than seven years and had long desired a but they were also keeping him from succeeding. old beliefs and emotions were impacting his behaviors today.
promotion, but his long hours and hard work seemed to go When James was up for a new assignment, he realized James was able to move forward with qualities that helped
unnoticed. Every time he thought he should be recognized he was going into a trauma response of “fight or flight,” him lead with confidence.
for his efforts he felt his boss would become critical of him and reliving feelings from the past. His body felt the same
and find ways to put him down or embarrass him. He was
getting fewer rewarding assignments, while others less
deserving than he were getting rewarded instead. He noted
that a part of him was feeling unappreciated for his work,
and another part of him was upset with his supervisor, while
another part felt that he was never going to be good enough
for a higher-ranked position. He was feeling depressed and
having symptoms of anxiety.
The Diagnosis: Do you ever feel like a part of you is angry
about a situation, but another part of you wants to apologize
and move on? Or perhaps a part of you really wanted to go out
with friends and a part of you made you stay home and hide
from everyone instead. It is actually very common to have
parts of you in conflict or parts that act out with emotions or
expressions you are unable to control in those moments. This
struggle can leave you feeling confused, stuck, uncertain, and
even overwhelmed.
These episodes are signs of what I call a ‘Part-Attack.’
You may experience defensive or protective feelings,
overreact with sadness, or explode with anger, feel insecure
or want everything to be perfect. We all have different parts
of ourselves: parts that protect, parts that react, and parts
that carry old wounds, all of which are vying for position or
prevalence in our psyche.
The Treatment: During my initial assessment, I recognized
parts of James’s personality were in conflict and selected the
Internal Family Systems (IFS) model of psychotherapy as a
treatment approach. The IFS model works on the assumption
that each person is comprised of a core “Self” that leads a
person’s internal system, supported by a collection of various
parts that govern our motivations and behaviors that work to
support our needs at any given time or situation.
I introduced the IFS model to James and the concept of
parts, exploring how his thoughts, feelings, memories and
sensations are all comprised of parts of him. This allowed
us to better understand how James experienced himself and
his interactions with others, like his associates and boss at
work. We uncovered that James had parts that were behaving
in extreme ways and were preventing him from taking on
the better projects at work. Those were the parts that felt
unappreciated, overlooked, self-critical, questioning himself,
and the part that believed he wasn’t good enough.