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The Single’s Scene Column

The Summer Dating Tsunami

By Kelly Leary, M.S., THE Florida Matchmaker, est. 1991
“A life without love is like a year education to avoid. This is essentially how to stay safe emotionally, social media. Basically, you’re their secret boyfriend or girlfriend,
without summer.”~~Anonymous fiscally, and physically. Knowledge is power, friends. while they feel justified in “stashing” you on the shelf, pretending
Happy 4th of July to all of our Common Dating Risks: nothing is going on to the outside world, and keeping their options
clients, couples and friends. Isn’t it Micro-Cheating: Inappropriate flirting or contact with another open. If they proclaim you as their romantic interest, they will have
great to feel liberated after 16 plus that lacks physical touch. It goes beyond emotional infidelity, in that to give up their search.
months of all an around socially this usually occurs on an electronic device in one way or another. Benching: Before you have “the talk” with your new partner
restrictive dating dilemma? How How do you know if you have crossed the line? If you are doing about whether you are in an exclusive relationship, you are at risk of
do you distance and date at the anything you would not want your partner to know about (when it being “benched.” Like the sports term, where players are left on the
same time, right? Unlike many comes to dating or flirting) like texting inappropriately, sending photos bench as reserves, you might find yourself being someone’s back-up
would think, we started seeing or sharing intimate feelings with anyone other than your “exclusive” option as they continue to look around. They may come back to you
clients and matching again last partner, then you are micro-cheating. if nobody better comes along, but that doesn’t give one high hopes
summer around June of 2020. Love Bombing: The flame that burns too fast dies quickly. You for the relationship, does it?
Since then, the pool of new men feel someone fell madly in love with you but they have never met If you or someone you know has resisted dating because of all or
and women joining has been really you or you met out of convenience. In this case, you definitely should some of the above, I don’t blame you. Don’t think of what you have
interesting. It’s been fun to witness. think twice. Why is he or she falling so fast? Could they be trying to to lose today, think of what you have to gain and avoid anyone and
Professional men and women of ALL ages (and I mean 25 to 85) have get over a former heartache using you as their rebound distraction? any person who seems to be online too much. This is where many
been calling us after being frozen on the fence in limbo. People are Make sure their love history is CLEAN before you LEAN. dating problems begin and end. I advise you to get real. Live IRL (in
taking action and taking back control of their social love life after it Catfishing: When a person lures someone into a relationship real life). Love offline FOR SURE. Be confident, smart, and carry on
was threatened. The pandemic vibe taught us not to take anything for by pretending to be someone else online or has greatly altered their my friend! It’s time you start dating again. You got this--and so do we!
granted...and to set the stakes high on living your best life. appearance. Catfishes often steal photos from strangers’ profiles, and Every pot has a lid. Dating can be fun you know...let’s play and see
Many couples broke up during COVID--leaving a lot of you to sometimes even create multiple personas to make their stories more what happens! You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Stop
fly free. So now that you are FREE (single) how do you feel about believable. They will try to continue a “fake” relationship for months- overthinking and make your move while the dating pool is HOT! This
it? I would bet that being single is not your end game. So what do -always avoiding a face-to-face meeting. This happens ALL the time. July we have some exclusive specials that will only be available to my
you do? You get smart for one thing. Let the current dating tsunami Ghosting: When someone you’ve been seeing vanishes without a loyal readers and their friends. Share the love and pass it on!
take over your heart in a good way. Don’t fret about the worries of trace. You could have been dating a few days, or months, but one day Wishing you so much love and happiness this July. The clouds
dating again. Just get smarter, get up to date (no pun). Realize long they simply disappear. They don’t return your texts, and may even have parted. There is nothing but green pastures ahead for you.
term relationships are back in style. Old school ways of dating have block you to avoid having the break-up conversation with you. It’s XOXO,
re-emerged in a refreshing manner. People are getting to know each cowardly, but sadly common, especially with a vast array of dating Kelly
other better before diving in feet first. This has allowed the process apps at our fingertips. It’s too easy to jump ship if you are dating an #ChristmasInJulySpecials #ShareYourLove #30YearsInTheBiz
to change from falling in love to forever love. online addict (Facebook or any dating site). #MakeYourFreedomFun #TellYourFriends
If you desire to have forever love again, you can. Period. You do Zombie-ing: If you’ve been ghosted, the culprit may resurface. Kelly Leary, Founder of Revolution Dating has a master’s degree
have to put yourself out there and make yourself vulnerable. There It’s usually a decent amount of time after they disappeared, and they in psychology and 30 successful years in the dating industry. A top
is no way around it. There are no dating hacks (other than hiring a often act like nothing happened, like a revived corpse. matchmaker, now known as THE Florida Matchmaker, she has been
matchmaker). There is no insurance policy on love per se. You can, Nexting: With all the apps at our fingertips and singles finding it so profiled by ABC News, The Palm Beach Post, PalmBeacher Magazine,
however, date smart and date local while positioning yourself to meet easy to communicate via a smartphone, anyone can be anyone. False The South Florida Business Journal, and numerous other media outlets.
authentic people via private introduction from an educated pro. This confidence abounds and many just feel they can jump to the next in Please call our hotlines seven days a week at 561-630-XOXO (9696)
is always your best bet. If you go online or use social media as your an instant...and guess what? They can. This is a weak testimony to in the Palm Beaches and South Florida area or 772-932-HERE (4373)
source, be aware of some of the bumps you could encounter along the a real man or woman who is looking to date sincerely as a romantic on the Treasure Coast. You may also visit our informational only
way. If you get frustrated, make a change for the better and don’t get goal. If you feel you are in this trap, get out quickly. website at www.revolutiondating.com. All inquiries are confidential.
bitter, like many people who play or stay online dating too long. It can Stashing: When the person you’re dating doesn’t introduce you All applicants must be prescreened in person at our private practice
affect you if you do which is why we are giving you this Dating 101 to their friends or family and doesn’t post anything about YOU on to be eligible. This is NOT online dating.

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