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The Singles Scene Column ©

Spend Money to Find Love? and sometimes even scary! The times have changed and Too easy. Now, it’s too hard. The online dating system has
we must change too. As much good as the Internet has been severely handicapped and there is no fixing this inherent
By Kelly Leary, M.S., THE brought us--it has come with a VERY high price. People fatal flaw. Online dating will only get worse--especially in
Florida Matchmaker are so programmed to look down (at their screens) and Florida.
The answer is simple: We communicate via social media and texting that many have Was there a time when online dating had better odds?
have always invested money lost the art of socializing in person. Just look around at the Sure. My cousin met her husband online in Maine 12 years
to find love regardless of our beach or at a restaurant. People are obsessed with their ago. Get it? In Maine and 12 years ago. Online dating hit
gender. We pay for dates, we smartphones. an all-time low in 2009 in Florida, which is when the local
pay to look good, and we pay in Enter online dating: Being an encyclopedia on this daily newspaper did a very positive story on my work.
the form of time and emotional industry, I remember when online dating first hit the Off-line dating services hit the maps BIG at that moment
investments too. We pay for our circuits. Not everyone had a computer and there were no and so did I. We were presented as an alternative to online
wins to celebrate love in the smartphones. And so it began--the evolution of dating went dating. Take it from someone who is an expert. It is an
form of a wedding and sadly, from a kind introduction or set-up like our grandparents enormous gamble and you will risk losing time, money,
sometimes, we pay for divorce and parents to everyone jumping on the alternate bus of headache and heartache--not to mention your safety--men
when love ends. We always online dating, which began around 1995. The theory seemed or women--when you look for love online. Men can be hurt
pay for love one way or the other BUT the payoff is the sensible, but there has been a big trade-off in recent years. It too--and definitely in the wallet. It is a gamble just like in
best feeling in the world. We all want and need love. Yet is now super easy to cheat or “next.” The divorce rate is up. Vegas, and you can lose EVERYTHING.
now, more than ever, we have been forced to get smarter What started as a way to increase your options has become Look up documentaries like Dirty John who met an
because of our potential losses. Dating is riskier today-- completely corrupt since its inception. Too much. Too fast. upscale woman on OurTime.com. He pretended to be a
doctor but he was a very BAD guy. Predators love online
Abacoa POA Meeting Notices dating! You can see online dating disasters on Date Line,
20/20, or any news channel. Online dating is dangerous and
quality people either don’t like it or cannot be seen online
Official notification is posted via the bulletin board outside the Abacoa POA office as well as the www.Abacoa. for privacy reasons. It’s embarrassing.
com Web site. Members may now download Abacoa POA agendas and minutes from our Web site.
Enter Modern Matchmaking: My business was
Notice of Monthly Abacoa POA Board Meeting – No Meeting In July designed as an online dating remedy and for those who
Notice of Monthly Abacoa POA Community Architect (CAC) Meeting – Fourth Tuesday – See agenda for simply can’t or won’t go online looking for love (like
posted time. a doctor, judge, or CEO). We are private, friendly, and

**All Abacoa POA meetings to be held at the offices of the Abacoa POA, 1200 University Blvd., Suite 102 unless local. We serve South Florida and the Treasure Coast. I,
personally, have 28 years of experience and a master’s
otherwise posted. All agendas, as well as approved minutes, will be available at www.abacoa.com.
degree in Clinical Psychology specializing in Forensic
Articles herein are the creation of the individual writers, and do not express the opinion of the APOA. By printing an Studies (profiling). During my graduate studies, I was lucky
enough to find my calling by happenstance in 1991 in Boca
article herein, the APOA is not endorsing the writer, the article’s content, or any business referred to therein. The APOA Raton. I worked at other dating services over the years and
will not be responsible for errors contained in, or related to, articles.
quickly noted what they were doing wrong and what they
were doing right. I kept the best and forgot the rest. I still
cringe when I recall what other bosses of mine had done
in the past. Many of them still exist but they have changed
their business name multiple times.
To save you time and money, I have also included a
price list of random options. We researched many of these
prices to double check...all in the name of love and all for
YOU. Since “matchmaker” is now a household term like
doctor or lawyer, I thought I would bring you up to speed!
Thank me later!
What Finding Love Could Cost in Dollars:
$0 Free dating sites or sit home alone with no one.
$25+ Some online dating sites. Ex: Bumble, Match,
OurTime. See above article for your odds.
$449+ Per month/3 month minimum -- for one date per
month. No local office/often in temporary or virtual offices.
Often no photos. Ex: Tawkify (California Address).
$5000+ Sometimes per month, per year, or per number
of dates. Sometimes no photos. Ex: Three Date Rule (no
Florida location) and many others.
$25K to $45K+ Per year -- to work with a representative
at a “elite” service that may or may not have a rooted local
62 Marina Gardens Drive office in Florida. Matches could be national. Ex: Kelleher
Palm Beach Gardens International.
(Reference for price section and amounts: Cosmopolitan,
June 2019)
Here is the bottom line: When you find your dream
man or woman you will be glad you took the plunge
Private Gated Community and you chose the best service available to you. Upon
enrollment (hopefully in person in a real office), consider
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