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The Single Scene Column©                                       sending photos or sharing intimate feelings with anyone      	 Benching: Before you have “the talk” with your
                                                               other than your “exclusive” partner, then you are micro-     new partner about whether you are in an exclusive
By Kelly Leary©, Founder of Revolution Dating                  cheating.                                                    relationship, you are at risk of being “benched.” Like
                                                                                                                            the sports term, where players are left on the bench as
Decoding the New Dating Language                               	 Love Bombing: The flame that burns too fast dies
                                                               quickly. You feel someone fell madly in love with you        reserves, you might find yourself being someone’s back-
	 The Love Business is                                         but they have never met you or you met briefly. In this      up option as they continue to look around. They may
booming with new couples                                       case you definitely should think twice. Why is he or she
and engagements. I can’t                                       falling so fast and they barely know you? How many           come back to you if nobody better comes along, but that
count how many dynamic                                         times have they done this before?
duos are enjoying the                                          	 Catfishing: When a person lures someone into a             doesn’t give one high hopes for the relationship, does it?
fireworks together all                                                                                                      	 Today, more than ever, I realize why this club has
summer long because of us.                                     relationship by pretending to be someone else online         become so popular among our members who are too smart
Summertime is the kick-off
of Cuffing Season, the time                                    or has greatly altered their appearance. Catfishes often     for the shark tank. If you are someone who has resisted
when finding a girlfriend                                      steal photos from strangers’ profiles, and sometimes
or boyfriend becomes                                           even create multiple personas to make their stories more     dating because of all of the above, I don’t blame you. BUT
even more appealing as                                         believable. They will try to continue a “fake” relationship  you do have to stand up for what you want at some point
the countdown to the big                                       for months--always avoiding a face-to-face meeting.          and take a strong calculated risk. Not everyone is obsessed
holidays is officially in                                      	 Ghosting: When someone you’ve been seeing                  with his or her screens! Not everyone would risk his or her
motion.                                                        vanishes without a trace. You could have been dating a       safety, money or sanity on internet dating or blind flirting.
	 As your leader of love, I have decided to bring you          few days, or months, but one day they simply disappear.      You don’t have to either. Don’t think of what you have to
up to date on some new “terms” being used by singles           They don’t return your texts, and may even block you         lose today, think of what you have to gain. Be confident,
today. The old-fashioned meeting through introduction by       to avoid having the break-up conversation with you. It’s     smart, and carry on my friend! It’s time you start dating
a friend is the best way to go...and that is what we recreate  cowardly, but sadly common, especially with a vast array     smart too. You got this--and so do we!
at my club. So Ready-Set-Go. Be aware and enjoy the next       of dating apps at our fingertips.                            	 Let’s claim some internet-independence!
chapter of your life. Knowledge is power. The power of         	 Zombie-ing: If you’ve been ghosted, the culprit may
love knows no boundaries but first we must know who            resurface. It’s usually a decent amount of time after they                                                                 XOXO,
we are dating and what goes on “Behind the Screens!”           disappeared, and they often act like nothing happened,
(Yikes). Online daters beware...and social media lovers...     like a revived corpse.                                                                                                       Kelly
heed my advice! It’s just too easy to get into trouble if      	 Nexting: With all the apps at our fingertips and singles
you are dating via the internet in any way. In this day        finding it so easy to communicate via a smart phone, anyone  	 Kelly Leary, Founder of Revolution Dating has a
and age, dating begins and ends with our smart phones…         can be anyone. False confidence abounds and many just feel   master’s degree in psychology and 27 successful years
Time To Get Smarter.                                           they can jump to the next in an instant...and guess what?    in the dating industry. A top matchmaker, now known as
Learn the Dating Dictionary, circa 2018:                       They can. This is a weak testimony to a real man or woman    THE Florida Matchmaker, she has been profiled by ABC
	 Micro-Cheating: Inappropriate flirting or contact                                                                         News, The Palm Beach Post, PalmBeacher Magazine,
with another that lacks physical touch. It goes beyond         who is looking to date sincerely as a romantic goal. If you  The South Florida Business Journal, and numerous
emotional infidelity, in that this usually occurs on an                                                                     other media outlets. Please call our hotlines seven days
electronic device in one way or another. How do you know       feel you are in this trap, get out quickly.                  a week at 561-630-XOXO (9696) in the Palm Beaches
if you have crossed the line? If you are doing anything        	 Stashing: When the person you’re dating doesn’t            and South Florida area or 772-932-HERE (4373) on the
you would not want your partner knowing about (when it         introduce you to their friends or family, and doesn’t        Treasure Coast. You may also visit our informational
comes to dating or flirting) like texting inappropriately,     post anything about you on social media. Basically,          only website at All inquiries
                                                               you’re their secret boyfriend or girlfriend, while they      are confidential. Background checks are required. All
                                                               feel justified in “stashing” you on the shelf, pretending    applicants must be prescreened in person at our private
                                                               nothing is going on to the outside world, and keeping        practice to be eligible. This is NOT online dating.

                                                               their options open. If they proclaim you as their romantic   Around Town TAKEN Couples & More...
                                                               interest, they will have to give up their search.
                                                                                                                            	 This club has found that
                                                                                                                            connecting to the right         Chris & Dani, est. 2015, will
                                                                                                                            people at the right places      be watching fireworks again
                                                                                                                            for the right causes, attracts  this summer thanks to RD!
                                                                                                                            even more dynamic and
                                                                                                                            successful singles as a
                                                                                                                            bonus! Not only is this
                                                                                                                            award winning dating and
                                                                                                                            events club growing by
                                                                                                                            leaps and bounds, they are
                                                                                                                            also rising in the ranks of

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