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The Single Scene Column©                                       more appealing as the countdown to the big holidays is officially    infidelity, in that this usually occurs on an electronic device in
                                                               in motion.                                                           one way or another. How do you know if you have crossed the
By Kelly Leary©, Founder                                       	 As your leader of love, I have decided to bring you up to          line? If you are doing anything you would not want your partner
of Revolution Dating                                           date on some new “terms” being used by singles today. The            knowing about (when it comes to dating or flirting) like texting
                                                               old-fashioned meeting through introduction by a friend is the        inappropriately, sending photos or sharing intimate feelings
Decoding the New                                               best way to go...and that is what we recreate at my club. So         with anyone other than your “exclusive” partner, then you are
Dating Language                                                Ready-Set-Go. Be aware and enjoy the next chapter of your life.      micro-cheating.
                                                               Knowledge is power. The power of love knows no boundaries            	 Love Bombing: The flame that burns too fast dies quickly.
	 The Love Business is                                         but first we must know who we are dating and what goes on            You feel someone fell madly in love with you but they have
booming with new couples                                       “Behind the Screens!” (Yikes). Online daters beware...and            never met you or you met briefly. In this case you definitely
and engagements. I can’t count                                 social media lovers...heed my advice! It’s just too easy to get      should think twice. Why is he or she falling so fast and they
how many dynamic duos                                          into trouble if you are dating via the internet in any way. In this  barely know you? How many times have they done this before?
are enjoying the fireworks                                     day and age, dating begins and ends with our smart phones…           	 Catfishing: When a person lures someone into a relationship
together all summer long                                       Time To Get Smarter.                                                 by pretending to be someone else online or has greatly altered
because of us. Summertime is                                   Learn the Dating Dictionary, circa 2018:                             their appearance. Catfishes often steal photos from strangers’
the kick-off of Cuffing Season,                                	 Micro-Cheating: Inappropriate flirting or contact with             profiles, and sometimes even create multiple personas to
the time when finding a girlfriend or boyfriend becomes even   another that lacks physical touch. It goes beyond emotional          make their stories more believable. They will try to continue a
                                                                                                                                    “fake” relationship for months--always avoiding a face-to-face
Be Inspired.                                                                                                                        meeting.
 Engaged.                                                                                                                           	 Ghosting: When someone you’ve been seeing vanishes
 Fulfilled.                                                                                                                         without a trace. You could have been dating a few days, or
                                                                                                                                    months, but one day they simply disappear. They don’t return
Supporting Your                                  Join Us for Inspiring July Events!                                                 your texts, and may even block you to avoid having the break-
 Memory Care                                                                                                                        up conversation with you. It’s cowardly, but sadly common,
                                                                                                                                    especially with a vast array of dating apps at our fingertips.
    Journey.                                                                                                                        	 Zombie-ing: If you’ve been ghosted, the culprit may
                                                                                                                                    resurface. It’s usually a decent amount of time after they
   Opening                                                                                                                          disappeared, and they often act like nothing happened, like a
 September                                                                                                                          revived corpse.
                                                                                                                                    	 Nexting: With all the apps at our fingertips and singles
      2018!                                                                                                                         finding it so easy to communicate via a smart phone, anyone
                                                                                                                                    can be anyone. False confidence abounds and many just feel
THE INS & OUTS OF VA AID & ATTENDANCE                           LUNCH & A MOVIE: STILL ALICE                                        they can jump to the next in an instant...and guess what? They
          Tuesday, July 17 | 5 – 7 p.m.                        Wednesday, July 25 | 11 a.m. – 2 p.m.                                can. This is a weak testimony to a real man or woman who is
                                                                                                                                    looking to date sincerely as a romantic goal. If you feel you are
       Presented by Tony Reese, YNC(SS), USN (Ret),            Kane Center | 900 SE Salerno Road | Stuart                           in this trap, get out quickly.
             Veterans’ Service Office Supervisor                  Come have lunch and see Still Alice, starring                     	 Stashing: When the person you’re dating doesn’t introduce
                                                                                                                                    you to their friends or family, and doesn’t post anything about
 Miles Grant Country Club | 5101 SE Miles Grant Road | Stuart  Julianne Moore. Stay afterwards for a movie review.                  you on social media. Basically, you’re their secret boyfriend
                    Dinner will be served.                          • All who RSVP will receive a copy of the                       or girlfriend, while they feel justified in “stashing” you on
                                                                              book by Lisa Genova                                   the shelf, pretending nothing is going on to the outside world,
  Join us to learn about Veterans Aid & Attendance benefits          • Guests can pick up their books ahead                         and keeping their options open. If they proclaim you as their
   and see if you or a loved one qualifies. Aid & Attendance:           of time at our Welcome Center                               romantic interest, they will have to give up their search.
                                                                                                                                    	 Benching: Before you have “the talk” with your new partner
           • Helps defray the costs of monthly care                                                                                 about whether you are in an exclusive relationship, you are at
             • Benefits Veterans and their spouses                                                                                  risk of being “benched.” Like the sports term, where players
                                                                                                                                    are left on the bench as reserves, you might find yourself being
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                                                                                                                                    may come back to you if nobody better comes along, but that
                                                 772-208-8114                                                                       doesn’t give one high hopes for the relationship, does it?
                                                                                                                                    	 Today, more than ever, I realize why this club has become
                                                                                                        so popular among our members who are too smart for the shark
                                                                                                                                    tank. If you are someone who has resisted dating because of all
                                                 500 SE Indian Street | Stuart, FL 34997                                            of the above, I don’t blame you. BUT you do have to stand up for
                                                                                                                                    what you want at some point and take a strong calculated risk.
                                                                                                                                    Not everyone is obsessed with his or her screens! Not everyone
                                                                                                                                    would risk his or her safety, money or sanity on internet dating or
                                                                                                                                    blind flirting. You don’t have to either. Don’t think of what you
                                                                                                                                    have to lose today, think of what you have to gain. Be confident,
                                                                                                                                    smart, and carry on my friend! It’s time you start dating smart
                                                                                                                                    too. You got this--and so do we!
                                                                                                                                    	 Let’s claim some internet-independence!


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